Marriage isn’t always easy。 Which I feel like is something ignored for the most part in pop culture (aside from that brilliant story arc on Blackish a couple of years ago。) Fights are portrayed as something humorous and minor if not outright funny。 But that’s not the truth。 So when I saw this memoir about a passionate, loving, tricky, complicated, and difficult marriage, I dove right in。Eleanor and Aaron meet young (well, Eleanor is in high school but Aaron is older。) And their rollercoaster rel Marriage isn’t always easy。 Which I feel like is something ignored for the most part in pop culture (aside from that brilliant story arc on Blackish a couple of years ago。) Fights are portrayed as something humorous and minor if not outright funny。 But that’s not the truth。 So when I saw this memoir about a passionate, loving, tricky, complicated, and difficult marriage, I dove right in。Eleanor and Aaron meet young (well, Eleanor is in high school but Aaron is older。) And their rollercoaster relationship lasts through a lot of twists and turns that would have taken out other couples。 And finally, when they are adults and married and have careers and things seem to be smoothing out–that’s when it gets much, much harder。 Aaron has medical issues that can’t be diagnosed properly。 Does he have A or B or C? Or A and B and C? No one quite knows。 It could be D or E? Or Z。 And there are countless doctor’s appointments and excruciating pain。 To deal with it, he drinks heavily。 Occasionally uses drugs。 The entire burden of supporting the family, dealing with the kids and the household, as well as with Aaron who often seems like a very large third child, falls completely on her。 Which would be more than enough to crush a person, and then add the health problems on top。I find Eleanor’s resilience inspiring, amazing, and downright unbelievable。 She is truly impressive。 I’d guess 99% of people I know wouldn’t have her fortitude。 She perseveres。 。。。more
Natalie,
I found this book difficult and disturbing to read。 The author tells her story of her relationship to her husband Aaron, but I could not find anything redeeming or heartening in the story。 While the author celebrates her ability to maintain this damaged relationship, I found it difficult to understand。 Since much of the story was based on Aaron’s illnesses, I spent time trying to understand those as well。 So, this is the opposite of an inspirational story, just a depressing montage of scenes fro I found this book difficult and disturbing to read。 The author tells her story of her relationship to her husband Aaron, but I could not find anything redeeming or heartening in the story。 While the author celebrates her ability to maintain this damaged relationship, I found it difficult to understand。 Since much of the story was based on Aaron’s illnesses, I spent time trying to understand those as well。 So, this is the opposite of an inspirational story, just a depressing montage of scenes from a very bizarre relationship。 Thank you Netgalley for this ARC。 。。。more
Ursula,
This memoir is tender, heartbreaking, and brilliant。 The prose sings, and I highly recommend it to everyone。
Zoe Norvell,
As a book cover designer, I am able to read manuscripts before the book is published (a necessity for my job!) In lieu of my deadline, I typically skim those manuscripts - rather quickly - gleaning for pieces of inspiration to use on the cover。 With 'Everything。。。' I simply could not skim! I was enraptured with Eleanor's story。 It was addicting。 I finally forced myself to put the manuscript down and begin working on her cover。 I'm really looking forward to this book's pub date so I can start ove As a book cover designer, I am able to read manuscripts before the book is published (a necessity for my job!) In lieu of my deadline, I typically skim those manuscripts - rather quickly - gleaning for pieces of inspiration to use on the cover。 With 'Everything。。。' I simply could not skim! I was enraptured with Eleanor's story。 It was addicting。 I finally forced myself to put the manuscript down and begin working on her cover。 I'm really looking forward to this book's pub date so I can start over from the beginning and finish this amazing memoir。 I also can't wait to hold the actual book and flip its pages。 Thank you, Eleanor! It was a pleasure。。。 。。。more